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Simple ways to connect with your partner
February 18, 2021
This article is a continuation of Love is in the little things, which was published on February 9, 2021
When couples in therapy talk about activities that connect them, the topic of date nights usually arises early in the conversation, and you might be surprised to know that the therapist isn't the one raising the subject. Couples and families are busier than ever. Although a date night is a great idea, we often lack the time or other resources to have an elaborate night out. The last thing a therapist wants is to further overwhelm a struggling couple with something that should be positive but ends up feeling like a chore – or another problem to solve.
Below is a list of small ways to connect with your partner that have serious value, because they're manageable and easier to weave into your daily life than a date night that requires a babysitter. Most of them require little time and no money. Try making up your own list, too! This works especially well (and is easiest to do) when you recall the ways that you have connected in the past and intentionally incorporate them again or more often.
Simple ways to connect
- Make a meal plan together
- Shop for groceries together
- Dance to a song
- Hug for 20 seconds
- Finish the sentence, "I appreciate [blank] about you."
- Offer an apology
- Have a staring contest
- Ask your partner, "If we could do anything you like for 15 minutes, what would you choose?"
- Do the thing your partner chose
- Play a board/card game
- Have decaf coffee or tea together in the evening
- Make a "No devices in/at the [blank]" rule
- Take a 10-minute walk together
- Make up a new pet name for your partner
- Write a love note in seven words or less
- Identify a need that your partner has met
- Identify a need that your partner hasn't met yet
- Play a sport together
- Schedule a weekly 30-minute "talk time"
- Have a re-run of your first date or remember your first date together
- Set a goal together that you can achieve in a week
- Tell your partner about a worry you have
- Ask, "How could I make your day better today?"
- Talk about the kind of relationship you'd like your child to have with their future spouse
Relationships require consistent and intentional effort, even more so in times of crisis or stress. If your relationship is in a place where the above list feels impossible or unhelpful, it might be a good time to check in with a therapist. The Employee Assistance Program at Manitoba Blue Cross offers relationship counselling for couples at every stage, with service delivery methods and appointment availability to suit your needs.
Love is in the little things
February 9, 2021
Healthy couple fact: happy couples are couples who regularly make time to connect. Connection is most meaningful if it happens in the form of small, consistent actions.
Couple relationships are complex and unique to the individuals who co-create them. Every couple will at some point in their relationship be faced with challenges that may bring them together or pull them apart.
When we speak about this dynamic of coming together and moving apart in relationships, we refer to it as an attachment pattern. We usually learn our patterns of attachment in our family of origin – the family we grew up in.
When we form couple relationships in adulthood, we take the things we learned in those developmental years and combine them with the things our partner learned in their family to co-create the dynamic that we experience in our intimate relationship.
When we face challenges as a couple, this dynamic is magnified. So, if things are shaky under normal circumstances, they can break down quickly when we're under stress. However, if we typically enjoy a strong, connected relationship, stress might bring us closer together – or at least, we'll ride it out more smoothly. What defines whether we thrive or struggle as a couple comes down to our attachment patterns and our level of connection with our partner.
Think of attachment patterns as the music of a relationship. When we're in a relationship with another person, the music is playing, and the music is created by the instruments we learned to play in our growing years. Our level of connection to our partner is like the tuning of those instruments. If we regularly invest time and energy into meaningfully connecting with our partner, the instruments are in tune, the music is beautiful, and the dance we do together is smooth. We can even laugh about it when someone gets their foot stepped on.
However, when we're disconnected, the song plays out of tune and everything sounds like nails on a blackboard. If there is a dance, it might feel more like a poorly executed version of the "Thriller" music video, and no one is laughing at the foot stomps.
So, a functioning relationship requires couples to nurture their connection, so that the instruments play in tune and they can enjoy the beautiful music of being mutually attuned.
Many couples get a deer-in-the-headlights look when asked about connection, either because they aren't aware of how they've been successful at connecting in the past, or they're not sure where to start to weave in new sources of connection if their relationship has undergone a fundamental change that requires some adaptation.
Fortunately, meaningful connection isn't intellectually challenging – there are countless ways to do it! However, for couples who are already in a rough spot, they may not be in the emotional space necessary to make efforts at, or benefit from, connecting activities. These couples are best directed to a relationship therapist who can offer support and help begin the healing process before things get worse.
Winter is here, and so is COVID-19 – how do we stay active?
January 25, 2021
With gyms closed for much of 2020, many Manitobans got used to exercising outdoors.
But with the entire province in code red, Manitobans are living with restrictions and facing sedentary lifestyles – all during the coldest months of the year.
How do we keep active during a Winnipeg winter, when many indoor activities are nearly impossible?
Think about your unique situation and plan activities you feel could be done safely/comfortably throughout the winter, even if social restrictions stay in place. And consider the things that might have stood in the way of a winter exercise regime in the past.
For instance, if you live near a well-groomed path, you might be able to easily plan a walking or jogging route. If the paths near you are typically icy or hard to navigate, you can order clip-on shoe accessories that can help give you traction.
If you're looking to stay active while staying indoors, you could also look at ordering a treadmill or exercise bike (on the pricier side) or some cheaper supplies to help you do basic strength training in your living room.
Another thing to consider is potential equipment shortages. COVID-19 has prompted mass supply and demand issues for various items, including workout equipment, computers and bikes. This made holiday shopping a much larger challenge for many.
With all of this in mind, you should start looking for any equipment or items you need sooner than later. You may need to shop online, and while some businesses are closed due to restrictions, many are offering curbside pickup for safe shopping.
Get out of your comfort zone
For some, staying active may require moving out of our comfort zone, as the prospect of outdoor activity when it is –30°C does not always sound appealing. However, trying new activities can be exciting and lead to the start of new hobbies.
You may surprise yourself and find that you actually do enjoy our cold Manitoba winters. Manitoba has a lot of trails to explore, and cross-country skiing or snowshoeing might prove a worthy substitute if you're not into jogging.
Although the cold is not always appealing, fresh air (even in the frigid temperatures) does assist us with our overall physical and mental health. And by moving around, you may even find you're not as cold as you expected to be. Please remember to dress appropriately for the weather – wear layers to take off if you get too warm.
Trying to get fit indoors, but can't get any equipment? You can find almost everything online these days. For instance, the Fitbit and Nike Training Club apps feature tips on body-weight fitness – using only your body and items you have around the home to keep in shape.
Yoga tutorials and exercise videos are also very easy to find at low cost (and often free!) on sites like YouTube, meaning money doesn't have to be the deciding factor in staying fit.
If you're not ready to take the full plunge into a new exercise routine, you can simply do some push-ups or jumping jacks while your coffee is brewing.
And if you're worried about bothering your downstairs neighbours or family members with your new regime, you can even find tutorials online that outline quiet ways to build strength.
Take that first step
Starting a new fitness regimen during a pandemic may seem like a lot to ask of yourself.
But improving your cardiovascular health during the COVID-19 pandemic is a great way to set yourself up for a healthier routine down the line, and a healthy heart can prevent long-term health problems from popping up (or getting worse).
Once you start regularly exercising, you may question how you ever lived without it. Starting is the hardest part – but once you put that first foot forward, the next steps will be even easier.
Virtual health care now a permanent part of personal health coverage
January 4, 2021
With the second wave of COVID-19 upon us, seeking in-person care might not be feasible for everyone. However, attending to our health and well-being is more important than ever.
Earlier in the pandemic, we partnered with EQ Care to offer a virtual health care platform for members covered under our personal health plans.At the time, we announced that coverage would be available throughout the COVID-19 pandemic. However, we are now including EQ Care as a permanent part of our personal health coverage moving forward.
When surveyed by Abacus Data, 38 per cent of prairie residents (Manitoba and Saskatchewan) said they would prefer a virtual visit as the first point of contact for future appointments.
With virtual health care growing – and with Manitobans increasingly preferring it as an alternative or supplement to in-person care – ensuring our personal health plan members have access to virtual care is vital.
What is EQ Care?
EQ Care offers members access to confidential, 24/7 digital medical support. Supports include access to physicians, prescription drug management, referrals to specialists and guidance from a virtual care manager.
How does it work?
Visit the EQ Care login page at mbbluecross.eqcare.com or download the EQ Care app via the App Store or Google Play.
Reference your Manitoba Blue Cross ID card. Enter your Client number under the "Group Number" field and your unique Certificate number under the "Certificate Number" field.
Create an account by simply filling in the required fields with your personal information and contact details and then select your secure password.
Start your visit! Describe your symptoms and within minutes, a Care Manager will welcome you personally to EQ Care and connect you with the medical team. You can choose to receive immediate care or book an appointment for a later date.
EQ Care can address a wide range of medical needs, including:
- Chronic disease management
- Coordinating and scheduling
- Eye infections
- Lab requisitions
- Medical testing
- Migraines and sinus infections
- Prescription home delivery service
- Prescription renewals
- Sexual health
- Specialist appointments
- Stress and mental health
If you're a personal health plan member, don't forget to register today!
Manitoba Blue Cross responds to Harvest Manitoba's call to action
Helping our fellow Manitobans have a healthy holiday season
December 21, 2020
Manitoba Blue Cross is donating $10,000 to Harvest Manitoba to help the organization ensure no Manitoban goes hungry this holiday season.
"As a homegrown organization with deep roots in this community, we're strong advocates for Manitobans helping Manitobans," said Manitoba Blue Cross President & CEO Benjamin Graham.
Manitoba Blue Cross commends Harvest Manitoba for their exceptional efforts on a day-to-day basis to care for and nourish our community. "We understand how stressful the holiday season is on a regular year. The pandemic has elevated these stresses, creating even more challenges that are impacting the physical and mental health of so many in our province," Graham said.
As a company invested in the health and well-being of Manitobans, stepping up to support those in the community is a priority for Manitoba Blue Cross. The company has taken several actions to address needs in the community during the pandemic, including the introduction of virtual health services, free grief counselling for all Manitobans and offering additional mental health supports and immediate access counselling lines for those with assistance coverage.
"In times like these, it's crucial that we ensure Manitobans have access to the right supports," Graham said. "We don't want any Manitoban to feel like they are facing this alone and don't have the supports they need, including knowing where their next meal is coming from."
Mental health support for members with employee or individual assistance coverage
December 1, 2020
Sometimes when you need to talk, you need to talk now.
Along with many other stresses, COVID-19 has left many of us feeling disconnected. And with the entire province being in code red, the most severe level on Manitoba's pandemic response system, worries may be stacking up.
Safe counselling during COVID-19
At Manitoba Blue Cross, we're adapting to our ever-changing situation by ensuring a variety of service mediums are available for counselling, including phone, online video, email and text-based options. To abide by public health guidelines, in-person services are currently suspended.
As part of our efforts to support you during COVID-19, we launched Connect Now earlier this year. This resource is a clinical, personal and immediate support line where members can call to connect instantly with a professional counsellor from our EAP without the need for an appointment.
How does it work?
If you have employee or individual assistance coverage, you can access Connect Now:
- Directly at 204.786.8880
- Toll free at 1.800.590.5553
Calls to Connect Now are not deducted from (or counted towards) the sessions covered under your plan – you can still utilize the remaining sessions available to you.
Connect Now is meant to provide immediate support in the moment and intended for those who may not be able to participate in on-going counselling at this time. If there is a need for regular contact, you can discuss options with your Connect Now counsellor. If you know you'd like to start ongoing counselling, you can also call us directly to initiate the intake process.
Don't want to talk about the pandemic? No problem. While we launched this temporary service to help alleviate some of the pressures that have arisen during the pandemic, in no way do we want to limit conversations to COVID-19 concerns specifically.
If you have employee or individual assistance coverage, you can now access our online scheduler, Counsellor Connect.
Through Counsellor Connect, you can complete your intake online and use the tool to request your first appointment with a counsellor.
How does it work?
To access this online feature, visit mb.bluecross.ca and select the Counsellor Connect option under Mental Health & Wellness.
At the current time, Counsellor Connect is limited to conducting intake and requesting an appointment online (which means a counsellor will follow up on your online request to schedule the appointment), but once our in-person services resume, members preferring face-to-face counselling will be able to schedule their first appointment directly through Counsellor Connect by choosing from a comprehensive list of session types that ensure members are matched with the appropriate counsellor.
Commitment to flexibility
Coping in this unique environment takes flexibility. We want to ensure our members' and their family's needs are met by being flexible and understanding in our service delivery. Please don't hesitate to contact our intake lines directly to learn how we can help.
- Directly at 204.786.8880
- Toll free at 1.800.590.5553
A Manitoba Top Employer for the 11th year
November 25, 2020
For the eleventh time in 15 years, we're proud to be named one of Manitoba's Top Employers by Mediacorp.
In our most recent employee satisfaction survey, 96 per cent of employees said they were proud to work at Manitoba Blue Cross while 97 per cent of employees reported enjoying working here.
"We do our best to create an environment where an employee feels they can bring their whole self to work," says Brenda Slikker, Chief Operating Officer. "Life is complex, especially as we navigate through the unknowns of the pandemic, and personal stressors don't take a vacation while we're at work. That's why we feel it's essential to provide benefits and resources that care for the whole employee and help foster an overall sense of well-being."
Learn more about working with Manitoba Blue Cross.